Birthday. :)

Author: Abbey /

August 12 was my first Macedonian birthday.


I love birthdays. Birthdays are the best. Especially when one of your favorite people is there to celebrate with you.


Grace came! I knew it would be a huge blessing, but it was even better than I thought it would be. My first birthday without my dad was tougher than I had anticipated. I was so thankful He provided a friend so I didn't spend it alone.

First, to kick off birthday week, some Roma friends (Naip and Suzana, I've mentioned them before) threw me a little birthday dinner.

Naip and Suzana

Yummmmm.
Later in the week, Grace and I spent a day with Ginna and Hannah in Ohrid.


Sveti Naum in Ohrid. See the peacock? They're everywhere there! How cool is that?

Yes, it really is that beautiful.

No one I'd rather be smooshed in a taxi with. :)

Hannah made me some coffee at their coffee shop there, "Ima Vreme."

Then some teammates threw me a birthday party/movie night. And then...
Jessica and Grace threw me a CLOUD PARTY! Did you know I love clouds? Because I do. :)


I was definitely crying here... Jessica got the red plate we use on our birthdays at the Hammond house, and she made one of my mom's recipes. Can you say SWEET?! 

Anna dressed as a cloud for my birthday. :)

Cloud cake!

Birthday magic.

I know, I know. I'm ridiculously blessed.


Ah, Bitola.

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I heart Bitola, Macedonia.

Skopje is great. Like everywhere in Macedonia, the people are so nice. Since it's a bigger city, it's easy to find everything you need. (Minus a few essentials, like Rotel and Reese's cups, but that's another story...)

But Bitola! I love it! I went there for the third time last week. This was the longest I've stayed there, and I must say, so far, it's my favorite city in Macedonia.

But enough about the place. More about the people. :)

I was in Bitola last Monday through Saturday because some volunteers came to Macedonia to work with another Christian group. They decided to have a VBS in Bitola, and since they were including Roma and Macedonians, I was able to go to help.

The first three days were spent with children. The first day, we had five. The last day, we had twenty-four! Every day included the same things a VBS in the States would have: opening assembly, singing, Bible story, crafts, and snacks. The kids loved it. They just don't do things like that here.

On that last night, as I watched 24 rambunctious (but still adorable) children running around, I was reminded of Arizona, where I've spent a week of my summer every year for the last 11 years. This was my first year to miss it. In that respect, it was bittersweet... but I knew that God had been using my trips to the Navajo reservation all those years not only to reach them, but also to prepare me for work with the Roma. The two people groups are really similar.



Beautiful mountains in Arizona
Beautiful mountains in Bitola

Adorable Navajo kids
Adorable Roma kids


Baby Navajo mullet
Baby Roma mullet

The last three days were spent doing home visits and having youth events. Brenda, the woman leading the group, had the great idea of having a photo scavenger hunt! The youth really enjoyed it. They also liked playing "The Human Knot."

Scavenger Hunt--Picture with someone wearing traditional Macedonian clothes

Scavenger Hunt--Picture with a "baba" (grandmother)

Scavenger Hunt--Picture in a tree

Scavenger Hunt--Picture with Justin Timberlake

The youth here really don't ever get to be teenagers like we do in the States. They go straight from childhood to adulthood, with really no in-between. I'd love to do more work with Roma youth here in Macedonia. Would you pray that I have the opportunity to?

"We grieve harder because we love harder."

That's what Andy said in the car on the way home from the hospital for the last time. And it's so true. I told Daddy on his last day with us that he was the most loved man on the face of the planet. He really was.

The biggest blessing in all of this is that we have no regrets, and I know my dad didn't, either. In the end, he couldn't speak to us. We didn't get the big, heart-wrenching goodbye they show in the movies. But we didn't need one. Everything he would have said to us, or anything we would have said to him, we've said every day of our lives. I have known every day of my life that my daddy would do anything for me, and he always knew from words and actions that I adored him. We told each other "I love you" ten times a day, at least. He was my favorite man in the world. Twenty-three years wasn't enough time with him, but then, no amount of time would have been enough. I treasure every day I spent with him. And I treasure knowing that he is finally pain-free, and that I'll see him again. He ran the race, and he finished well.

So yes, I grieve hard. I miss everything about my daddy because I love everything about my daddy. His eyes. His voice. His silliness. His wisdom and discernment. His way of nicknaming people. His incredible love for my mom. His way of making friends with anyone he meets. But this grief is different--because I know where he is, and I know Who he's with, and I know I'll see him again. And it's not because he was a good person or did more good things than bad--it's because of the saving blood of Jesus Christ that made a way for him to have peace with God.

I miss him just like I'd miss any of my family members if I knew I probably wouldn't see them for years. But NOT because I'll never see him again. Because I will.

Thank you so much for all your prayers for my dad's healing. Praise God, he's finally been perfectly healed.

Love,
Abbey

Comings and goings.

Author: Abbey /

I'm going home on Monday. Two days. It's all happening so fast. I just decided yesterday and bought the ticket, and now I'm scrambling to finish paperwork and clean and pack. No time for goodbyes.

It's a roundtrip ticket. I'll be back July 6. I have until then to decide if I want to return to the field or resign. If it were up to me, I'd come back. It took being faced with the possibility of leaving for good to make me realize how much I love it here. I feel like my ministry is finally just beginning. I want to come back and finish. But I also know that, at least for right now, I need to minister to my family.

Dad is getting worse, and he is in a lot of pain. Please, please pray. 
Pray for my dad's pain to be lessened.
Pray for my mom, who has to watch her beloved hurt so terribly.
Pray for me, that I'll know how to minister to my family. I know they're exhausted at this point.
Pray for God's provision. Thankfully, He provided me with a cheaper ticket than I expected, but it's still more than I have.
Pray for peace for all of us. 
Pray for wisdom for me regarding whether I need to finish out my term (through July 2012) or stay home.


For the Lord will not cast off forever,
but, though He cause grief, He will have compassion
according to the abundance of His steadfast love;
for He does not willingly afflict or grieve the children of men.

Blessings upon blessings... Part III

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(Continued from previous two posts)




Sunday was the team’s last day here. We began the day with a church service in our ministry education center, which is located in one of the Roma communities. The Romanians sang while Buni played keyboard, and then some of them preached. BT also preached in Macedonian, and Dehran translated into Romani for the Romanians. Jessica taught the children the Resurrection Eggs, which they loved!

BT (right) preaching while Dehran (left) translates

Jessica teaching the Resurrection eggs

After a home visit Betty had scheduled for all of us, we went back to Shutka and handed out DVDs in the neighborhoods there. It was so fun to watch--they'd just go up to the gate and say to the people sitting in their yards, "Hello! I'm also Roma, from Romania!" As soon as they heard them speaking in Romani, they'd jump up and come to talk to them. I even met two believers! They're a husband and wife. The woman asked me if I believed in the Trinity, and she literally jumped up and down when I said yes! She hugged me and just said, "Sister! Sister!" over and over again. It was definitely an unforgettable moment.

Our last stop was to a home where BT holds a Bible study. We all met back up there, and Buni brought his accordion. (Just when I thought the week couldn't get any better, he brought out an ACCORDION.) 


And they just... worshipped. In Romani, in Romanian, and we sang along in English for a few familiar hymns. But even when I had no idea what they were saying, I just soaked in every second. I could have watched and listened to them forever. Their joy was so evident, so contagious, my cheeks started hurting from smiling so much! And then I realized I was crying. Laughing and crying at the same time. Have you ever done that? Laughing because it was so joyful. Crying because it was almost over and I didn't want them to leave, and I just loved them so much, and I was sitting among living proof that God is working among the Roma, and I just longed that He would do the same thing here in Macedonia.

I could talk about those brothers of mine for days… how touching it was when they served me dinner, when they stood up so I could have their seats, when they called me “Sister” instead of Abbey, even after they finally learned my name... sigh. It was just... wonderful.

But then, all too soon, we were saying goodbye. And they were thanking me, and I just couldn't find the words to express how much more blessed I felt by them. Really, they'll never know. But what an amazing, incredible blessing I had to truly experience what it means to be a part of the family of God.


(Once again, Blogger wouldn't let me upload my videos. Boo. But I'll try again soon!)

Blessings upon blessings... Part II

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(Continued from pervious post)

Friday, after a trip to the airport to pick up Dena (YAY!), I walked into the same hotel meeting room in Skopje where we had first met and was met with shouts of, “Heeey! Sister!” We spent the evening making home visits in Skopje, where the Roma still speak Romani. My group sat with one Roma family in front of their house. As the Romanian Roma men began to share with words and through singing, one of their neighbors poked his head over the fence and invited us to come to their home next. This family seemed to be even poorer than their neighbors, and I think some of the children were albino. It was my first time to meet this family, and it was great to see the Romanian Roma boldly sharing and praying with them. (I have awesome video of this, but Blogger won't let me upload it. Boo, Blogger. Boo.)



Little girl at the first house we visited.

Some new Roma friends (plus Dena!)
Saturday was my favorite day. We broke up into three groups and went into Shutka, the largest Roma settlement in Europe (it's here in Skopje) to hand out DVDs of the Gospel in the Romani language. I was a little nervous because I didn't have any English speakers on my team (except Dena, of course). Besides Dena and me, we had two of the Romanians and one Roma believer from here in Skopje, Dehran. One of the Romanians only spoke Romanian, the other spoke Romanian and Romani, Dehran speaks Romani and Macedonian, I speak Macedonian (very little!) and English, and Dena, of course, just speaks English. When we stopped to eat lunch, much of the conversation would go from Romanian to Romani to Macedonian to English, with plenty of hand gestures, too! And there was a LOT of laughter! Dena and I both said that it was our favorite lunch ever. :) 


Handing out DVDs in Shutka
We spent the day passing out the DVDs in the market. Dena and I mostly hung back and let the Roma men do the talking because it was incredible to watch, but I got to have a few conversations, too. (Ever tried talking about the Trinity in another language?) I definitely hit the wall a few times, but thankfully Dehran was always nearby to come to my rescue. I was so proud of him! He's 19 or 20, and he's unlike any other Roma person his age I've met. He did a great job sharing.

Dehran and Dena--BFFs, I think.
In a place where most of the Roma are Muslim, some of the people we spoke to refused to take the DVDs when we said they were about the Bible. When we visited Dehran’s aunt and her family, they wouldn’t even allow us to pray for them. But among the three teams, we handed out hundreds. The seeds have been sown… pray for a harvest!

Blessings upon blessings... Part I

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I wish I were a writer. I wish I could tell you about the last week of my life in a way that makes you feel like you were there. Better yet, I wish you were there. Suffice it to say that it was one of the best experiences of my life. Too good, in fact, to fit everything into one blog post! So here’s part one. :)



I walked into the meeting room of Hotel Brams, and I knew. These Roma were different. They were family. They had all the same qualities of the Roma I know in Skopje—loud, laughing, singing every chance they got—but with an added sweetness I knew could only come from the Spirit.

The eight Roma men had come from Romania with two American workers. Eight Roma men on a mission trip to reach their fellow Roma. And I didn’t have to understand their prayers that first night to know that this was exactly what they were asking for—that the Light would reach into these dark, Muslim communities and change them.

Love these brothers of mine :)

Something you should know about the Roma—they have their own language. They speak the language of the country where they live (here, Macedonian; where these men live, Romanian), and they also speak Romani, which varies from dialect to dialect but is similar enough to allow them to communicate with Roma from other countries. Instant connection.

In Bitola, though, where we spent our first two days together, many of the Roma have lost their native language and speak only Macedonian. When we arrived, I wondered how this would work. Only two of the Romanians spoke English, so this meant that everything would have to be translated from Romanian or Romani to English and then into Macedonian.

We began our home visits in the pouring rain. We hiked up mountains to houses that I’m sure no one ever visits, to homes so high up that we could see the entire city and surrounding mountains from their front steps. As we struggled up and down the steep, muddy paths, Psalm 66:9 came to mind: “He has… kept our feet from slipping.” The fact that none of us fell and slid down the mountain was a miracle in itself!

Heading up the mountain.

The first few conversations were translated from Romanian or Romani into English and then into Macedonian, but then He did something amazing. In almost every home, some unexpected family member or friend would walk in that spoke—you guessed it—Romani. That's so like Him. :) So instead of translating everything through three languages, the Gospel was shared in Romani and translated straight into Macedonian. Some of the very people we were sharing with acted as translators! 

Playing football with an incredible view.
It was amazing to see the men share their testimonies--man to man, father to father, brother to brother. The praise of the Lord was always on their lips. As I sat on the couch in one home with Betty and two of the Romanian Roma listening to 21-year-old Buni share his testimony with a fellow musician, I was blown away--and encouraged--and thankful--by this living evidence that He is moving among the Roma.